The comment - I deleted it but it's still in my edit folders so here it is "Anybody who will let themselves be tortured is nuts and I am nuts for reading this crap.SMH"
First, I had to look up SMH which means Shaking My Head. Then I re-read it and just above that comment was one from Rogue that I'd also missed but that was a nice one so I read the rude one again. And of course, I looked up who it was. Do people know we can see where they are and how long they are spending on our sites by the way? We can…
Anyhow, I got over my 'how do I fix this' fast - which is a HUGE thing for me. For a long time (most of my life), I'd just assume I was the party in the wrong, you know? Doubting myself and all that BS. I'm a whole lot better about that these days.
I then started to write a reply - and as I believe in energy, both positive and negative. I stopped myself. No need to open a door for confrontation or negativity even if my own reply was a 'Live and let live. Don't judge what you don't understand.' So I let it go and it got me thinking about us, about our little community here.
I have found some truly wonderful, honest friends who share this kink. And even those I don't know I've learned are kind. I think - even though we are human still - we are less judgmental, less quick to condemn someone or something. I appreciate that community, that safety, that honesty and that intelligence so very much and am grateful to be a part of this group.
So for all the drive by judges out there - I wish upon you the gift of understanding, of kindness and friendliness. We're all human beings doing the best we can and we all have hearts and feelings and we're all in this together whether we like it or not. In the words of Pema Chodron "Don't let the world harden your heart."